There is no
guaranteed way to know if a person truly loves you, but there are a few signs
to read in order to figure out what is on the mind of your loved one. If you
would like to know if the person you love truly loves you back, then you have
to pay attention on how the person acts, what they say, and what they do when
you are together. Though love may mean something different to every person,
there are many ways to tell if a person truly loves you, just has a crush on
you or just being momentarily infatuated with you.
NOTICE HOW THE PERSON ACTS
1
See if the person can act naturally around you. Part of
being love means being completely open to the other person. If you find
yourself seeing a whole different side that the person doesn't show the public,
then that may be love. For instance, if your partner is pretty serious or
polite in public, but shows a more goofy and silly side when you're alone, then
s/he is really opening up to you and loves you.
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If the person shares his or her deepest emotions with you and is
comfortable with it, then that is love.
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If the person is comfortable not looking perfect, tripping, or
having food stuck in his or her teeth around you, that means s/he is okay if
you see every side of him or her.
2
Gauge if the person is happy to be around you. This
should be true even during a bad day. If your loved one has had a very bad day
but lights up when s/he sees you, then that's a sign of love. If s/he is in
love with you, then the sight of you or the sound of your voice is guaranteed
to make him or her feel better — if only a little bit.
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The next time s/he is grumpy or has a bad day, see how s/he
reacts in your presence.
3
Notice if the person gives you googly eyes. Though
this may be silly, check out your loved one's face the next time you see him or
her. Does s/he look at you in a goofy, watery, silly and adorable way that can
only be described as "googly-eyed"? You will know it when you see it.
You won't get this look all the time — you can spot it in the morning, or
randomly across the dinner table.
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You may also be able to catch the person staring at you with the
same expression.
4
See if the person is giddy around you. Love
makes people feel giddy, weightless, and like laughing for no reason at all. If
you see the person acting this way in your presence, then this may be love.
Does your loved one seem hyper, excited, and on the verge of laughing for
almost no reason at all whenever s/he is around you? If so, then this may be
love.
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If you've said something barely funny and the person cracks up,
then s/he may be lovesick.
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If the person shows nervous energy or fidgets around a lot
around you, then s/he may just be excited by your presence.
5
Ask yourself if the person is upset when you are. If you
are suffering unbelievable emotional pain or are just bummed because you have
the flu, then this should rub off on the person who loves you. If s/he truly
loves you, then s/he'll absorb some of your negative emotions and will be very
upset because s/he'll want you to feel better as soon as you can.
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Though s/he doesn't have to be as upset as you are, the person
should clearly be affected by your mood because all s/he wants is for you to be
happy.
NOTICE WHAT THE PERSON SAYS
1
Notice if the person talks positively about your future
together. If the person really loves you, then the idea of you being
in his or her future is an absolute given, not something that he or she would
ever have anxiety or uncertainty about. If the person routinely talks about
what you're going to do in the future, about what your lives will look like
one, two, or even ten years in the future together, then s/he is probably in
love with you.
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True commitment means seeing a forever with another person. If
the person talks about the future and always includes you in it, then there is
a good chance s/he truly loves you.
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If the person talks about what your kids will look like, where
you will retire together, or where you will go for your honeymoon, then s/he
may really love you.
2
See if the person gives you meaningful compliments. There's a
difference between saying, "I like your new haircut" and "You
have the ability to make me feel better no matter what." If the person
gives you compliments that show that s/he really appreciates the important
aspects of your character and personality, then there's a good chance s/he
really loves you.
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Your loved one doesn't have to shower you with compliments all
the time — it's the quality, not the quantity, that makes a difference.
3
Determine if the person means every "I love you." Remember
that there is a big difference between "Love ya!" and "I love
you." If your special someone really loves you and tells you this much
while looking into your eyes, sounding earnest, and not wanting anything from
you, then it's likely that s/he really means it.
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If the person undeniably loves you, then s/he will say it for no
reason at all, not just because s/he needs a favor or because it feels like the
right thing to say.
4
See if the person really opens up to you. If your
loved one really loves you, then they will really open up to you and tell you
what they are thinking, feeling, fearing, and longing for. If the person really
opens up about their childhood, greatest regrets, most painful moments, or most
romantic dreams for the future, then it's likely that they like you because the
person is so comfortable telling you about almost everything.
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If the person tells you, "I've never told anyone this
before..." then there's a good chance that s/he really loves and trusts
you.
5
Expect to be missed when apart. If you
and your loved one are apart, but s/he still texts you, calls you, or emails
you to let you know how much s/he misses you, then it means s/he can't imagine
his or her life without you. If you go on a three-week vacation and don't hear
a word from him or her, then it may not be love.
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S/he doesn't have to call you constantly to let you know if s/he
misses you.
6
Hope to have your mistakes corrected. If that
person truly loves you, then s/he doesn't have an idealized picture of you in
his or her mind. If it's truly love, then that person will be comfortable with
telling you when you've made a mistake, said something illogical, or acted
badly. Though the person shouldn't criticize you all the time, giving you a
healthy amount of criticism just means that the person really knows you in and
out and accepts your mistakes as well as your best qualities.
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If the person never argues with you or never criticizes
you, then you should be on the look out. Make sure that the person truly loves
you instead of an ideal version of who you are.
7
See if the person truly values your opinion. If the
person truly loves you, then s/he'll care about what you think — whether it's
about his or her new pair of shoes or the political situation in your country.
If s/he really loves you, s/he will ask for your advice and opinions, whether it's
on big or small matters. S/he may feel self-conscious about asking for your
opinion, but s/he'll do it because s/he loves you.
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S/he doesn't have to ask for your opinion on everything — only
the things that really matter.
NOTICE WHAT THE PERSON DOES
1
Hope to be listened to. If the person really loves
you, then s/he'll not only open up to you, but s/he'll also listen to anything
you have to say — even if s/he's heard it all before. Though s/he won't be your
lapdog, s/he will be around to hear your thoughts. S/he will nod and respond
thoughtfully and not interrupt instead of switching the subject to something
s/he wants to talk about.
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Part of being in love is just being able to listen. It's not all
about being able to talk.
2
See if the person is always there for you. This
includes those times when it's inconvenient. Sure, if you want to grab a drink
or a tasty meal, the person is always around, but what about when you need a
ride from the airport or you need someone to walk your dog while you're sick?
If the person truly loves you, then s/he'll be there for you during the fun
times as well as the not-so-fun times.
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If the person is only around when you're happy, lighthearted, or
in a good mood, but flees the scene as soon as you are sad or cranky, then that
is not love.
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Love is about being there for a person, no matter what. Truly
loving a person means accepting all the positive and negative
qualities of that person, and being around during the good times and the bad.
3
Consider the nice things done for you. If the
person truly loves you, then s/he'll do thoughtful things like put gas in your
car when you're busy, do your food shopping for you, or bring you chicken soup
when you're home sick. These favors don't have to be constant or over-the-top,
but if the person truly loves you, then s/he'll want to do things to make you
smile and to make your life easier.
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True love isn't just about what you can take from the person,
but what you can give as well.
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If the person really loves you, then s/he will do nice things
for you without you having to ask. It should be implied that you need a favor
or help sometimes. If you have to ask for something nice every time, then
that may not be true love.
4
See if the person always wants to be around you. Part of
being in love is always wanting to be around the person you love, even if it's
impractical. If the person truly loves you, then he or she will want to be
around you — a lot. This doesn't mean the person will want to be attached at
the hip, but it does mean that the person will try to take as many
opportunities as possible to see you.
5
Let them give you space. If the person truly loves
you, then s/he'll not only want to be around you a lot, but s/he will also know
when to give you space and let you do your own thing. If the person wants to be
around you all the time, then that's not love — it's
infatuation. As love matures, two people will realize that they still need to
do things separate to maintain their own identities.
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If the person wants to be around you every waking moment, then
that may be more of a sign of that person's insecurities than true love.
6
Determine if the person truly understands you. True love
is true understanding. Though it sounds lame, the person should really
"get" you in order to love you. If the person actually understands
your moods, knows what you want and what you don't want, and has an idea of
what will make you happy before you may know it yourself, then that may be true
love.
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It's okay if part of you remains mysterious to
the person — you don't have to be understood 100%, but you do
have to have the sense that the other person truly understands where you're
coming from most of the time.
7
See if the person wants the best for you. This
should be true even if it isn't the best for him or her. If a person truly
loves you, then s/he will understand that there are some things that you have
to do that may not be the best for him or her, or may mean that you will be
spending some time apart. If s/he truly loves you, then s/he will understand
that you have to spend a summer on a remote island to pursue your career in
marine biology, or that you have to go home early to get enough sleep for a
test instead of spending the night with him or her.
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If the person only wants what's best for both of you at
all times, then s/he is not really seeing you as a unique individual with your
own needs and desires.
8
Look for support. If s/he really loves you,
then s/he will not only be there for the fun times — s/he'll also be there to
help you achieve your goals and move forward in your life. If s/he truly loves
you, then s/he'll be there in the bleachers during your soccer game, s/he'll be
there to see you defend your thesis, and s/he'll be there to give you a ride to
your job interview. And s/he'll be there whenever you want to talk about
something that means a lot to you.
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If s/he really loves you, then s/he will support you to achieve
your goals or pursue your interests, even if they have nothing to do with him
or her.
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