This weekend i and a couple of friends got together and got talking, one thing led to the other and our discussion leaned towards porn.
Of course the lads had a lot to say but the ladies were somewhat coy, so i (being very bold and whatnot) decided to ask the ladies specific questions about porn and i was shocked with the answers they gave me. One of the questions i asked them was about why girls don’t admit to watching porn and this is what they said..
1. PEOPLE SEE IT AS A TABOO: While watching porn may be lightening up when it comes to just how “wrong” it is to society, there are still people who consider this extremely taboo. But for some reason, it’s more wrong for women to watch it than for men. So,they don’t tell anyone. No girl wants to be viewed as someone who engages in something that’s considered taboo. they don’t want the label that is associated with watching porn.
2. ITS SEEN AS UNLADYLIKE: Society’s stereotype of women being only a certain way – that way being their preconceived perception of “proper” – has hindered a woman’s freedom of expression. They feel that if we step outside of that ladylike image, people will view them as impure and undesirable.
3. THEY FEAR THE JUDGEMENT: “Oh my gosh! She watches porn? She must be promiscuous. Ew!” Believe it or not, this is the reaction from a lot of girls who find out that other girls watch porn. But really, they probably watch it too! Not only are they fearful of judgement from other girls, but what about the men? If we find out they like to watch two strangers grinding their genitals together, most of our minds immediately start thinking that they must put out easily – a thought no girl wants any guy to be thinking of them.
4. SHEER PRIVACY: Some women may not even care about what society thinks *just as no one should*. For them, it’s more about their own privacy. What women do behind closed doors can stay behind closed doors if they so choose. They may just keep it to themselves because it’s like their own little guilty pleasure *literally*. You don’t see every exhausted mother who purges on snickers bars she has hidden in her underwear drawer telling the world about it afterwards, do you?
5. THEY BELIEVE PEOPLE WILL HAVE THE WRONG IMPRESSION OF THEM: Most of the time, porn is associated with being perverted or sexually preoccupied. Once people know you watch porn, they think you do it every chance you get. For men, this isn’t too much of a problem. After all, the porn industry revolves mostly around men, and them watching it is considered normal. For women, however, it can make people think that she’s so in touch with her sexuality that she may border on sexual deviance.
6. BECAUSE OTHER WOMEN DON’T ADMIT TO WATCHING IT: Didn’t your Mamma ever ask you, “Well, if your friends jumped off a bridge, would you, too?” This is basically the same thing. Peer pressure, that is. Nobody likes to feel like they’re really different. So if one woman says she doesn’t watch porn because “that’s gross,” or “it’s a guy thing,” then chances are, neither will the other. This leads to a never-ending chain reactions of girls just hiding the truth about them viewing other people having sex on screen.
7. DO I EVEN KNOW YOU: If they don’t know you that well, there’s no way they are going to admit to something that risqué. But that does not mean that they are going to just stroll up to a group of people they don’t know and openly tell them of their extracurricular activities that involve videos of people doing the dirty. Admitting it to some friends is one thing, but openly telling people about it in a casual conversation may seem like a poor attempt at seduction.
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